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I’m a 37-year-old man not having sex. That’s my choice, and I’m happy with it | Paul Duggan

After a breakup I found hooking up with men transactional and depressing. I won’t have sex until I fall in love again A few days after Christmas 2016, I stopped having sex. It wasn’t a grand statement or lifestyle choice. Nor was it an attempt to find life’s deeper meaning. It wasn’t even really a […]

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As a third-generation immigrant, how can I identify as either Italian or British? | Ask Philippa

Learning Italian may help you feel less anchorless, suggests Philippa Perry The question I am writing on behalf of myself and my sister. We are third-generation immigrants, both our grandparents being Italian and settling in London. We have been raised in a British-Italian household sharing values from both, but never feeling as if we fit […]

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How we met: ‘We got chatting at a comic-book convention and it turned into a naughty weekend’

Mark, 55 and Ingrid, 51, hit it off straight away when they were introduced in 1993. They live together in Glasgow with their son and pet greyhound In April 1993, Mark was excited to be travelling to Glasgow for a comic-book convention. At the time, he was working for a magazine, and had a huge […]

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How we met: ‘I found her on Facebook after 40 years and it felt like coming home’

Steve, 59, and DeSande, 55, were close at high school in Illinois, but lost touch after graduating. Four months after they reconnected, they got married In the winter of 1979, DeSande was a freshman at high school in northern Illinois, close to Chicago. “It gets really cold there,” she says. “One day I was walking […]

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How we met: ‘We drank three pints of beer out of a Frisbee and got very sick together’

Grace and Lawrence, both 28, became friends at university. She didn’t realise that he had a huge crush on her … When Grace joined her university Frisbee team in 2012, she was looking for a bit of fun. “I’ve never been sporty but I had friends doing it and I ended up really enjoying it,” […]

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I’ve had crushes all my life, but I’m getting married soon – and making a promise to love just one person | Nell Frizzell

I have fancied everyone from cartoon foxes to wrestlers. Do I have to say goodbye to all that? Unlike Jimmy Carter, the former US president, I have not committed adultery in my heart many times. But only because I have never been married. Over the course of my life, I have had more crushes than […]

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How we met: ‘My family wanted an arranged marriage, but I couldn’t bear the idea’

Namerah, 25, and Farhan, 30, met in 2014 while they were both studying in Malaysia. They now live in Bangladesh with their two cats After growing up in Saudi Arabia, Namerah moved to Kuala Lumpur to study for her A-levels in 2014. “I’m from a Pakistani family and had a very strict upbringing where men […]

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How we met: ‘We were scared someone would open our marriage certificate and we’d go to prison’

Rainer, 39, and Eka, 40, met in Jakarta at an underground LGBTQ+ film festival in 2010. They now live together in Toronto, Canada In the summer of 2010, Rainer was volunteering at an underground LGBTQ+ film festival in Jakarta. “I was born and raised in the city and had been part of the festival for […]

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How we met: ‘When she said she was bisexual I thought I might have a chance’

Maria, 53, and Sarah, 44, met at an 80s night in 2002. They live in San Francisco with their daughters and a feral cat In January 2002, Maria was working as a producer in San Francisco on a short film called Raised By Drag Queens. “At our wrap party, a group of us talked about […]

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