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How we met: ‘My family wanted an arranged marriage, but I couldn’t bear the idea’

Namerah, 25, and Farhan, 30, met in 2014 while they were both studying in Malaysia. They now live in Bangladesh with their two cats After growing up in Saudi Arabia, Namerah moved to Kuala Lumpur to study for her A-levels in 2014. “I’m from a Pakistani family and had a very strict upbringing where men […]

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How we met: ‘We were scared someone would open our marriage certificate and we’d go to prison’

Rainer, 39, and Eka, 40, met in Jakarta at an underground LGBTQ+ film festival in 2010. They now live together in Toronto, Canada In the summer of 2010, Rainer was volunteering at an underground LGBTQ+ film festival in Jakarta. “I was born and raised in the city and had been part of the festival for […]

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How we met: ‘When she said she was bisexual I thought I might have a chance’

Maria, 53, and Sarah, 44, met at an 80s night in 2002. They live in San Francisco with their daughters and a feral cat In January 2002, Maria was working as a producer in San Francisco on a short film called Raised By Drag Queens. “At our wrap party, a group of us talked about […]

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How we met: ‘My dad was a docker and her parents were very middle class. People gave us three weeks’

Alan and Janet, both 65, met at sixth form in 1974. They live in Colchester with their two dogs As a teenager, Alan was the first to admit he didn’t know anything about girls. But after many years at a same-sex school in Chingford, in 1974 he went to sixth form, where they had mixed […]

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How we met: ‘It felt strange to like someone so soon after losing my son’

Anil, 63, and Clare, 54, met in 2014 at a support group for bereaved parents. They split their time between south Gloucestershire and Surrey In January 2014, Anil was left devastated when his eldest son, Wesley, died in a motorbike accident. “I went into shock; it was all a blur,” he says. “People were kind […]

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How we met: ‘I fell into a river with my dog and Sam had to rescue us’

Eilís, 41, and Sam, 54, met in the summer of 2011 at a festival in Ireland. They live together in Kilkenny with their four children, cats and hens In the summer of 2011, Eilís visited the Earthsong festival in Ireland, a small off-grid gathering with lots of singing and music. “There was no electricity, and […]

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I’m fit and intelligent but can’t get a date. Should I give up? | Ask Philippa Perry

After trying so long, your wariness is understandable, says Philippa Perry. But remember you’re not shopping – you’re looking for a person to relate to The question I’ve had some short relationships, been on many dates, and had one long-term relationship (a while ago now) where I was dumped on the day before we planned […]

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How we met: ‘I went to her house and there were plates in her bed’

Anna, 42, and Marcus, 46, met at a London nightclub in 2007. They live in Suffolk, with their two children In 2007, Anna found herself struggling through a period of depression. Although she enjoyed living in London and working in wine PR, she started to reevaluate. “My life wasn’t what I wanted any more,” she […]

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How we met: ‘I’d been out as gay for a long time, but I thought Imogen was straight’

Aine, 26, and Imogen, 29, became friends at a bellringing group in 2019. They fell in love after the first lockdown and live in London with their two cats In 2019, Imogen was working as a freelance musician and studying sound art when she stumbled on a new hobby. “I was inspired to try out […]

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Why are stories about long-term couples always sugarcoated? | Emma Beddington

Accounts of lasting relationships rarely come unvarnished, but we need to be much more honest when we talk about love and marriage My husband sweeps in, catching me listlessly watching a video of hippos eating pumpkins, one hand clawed around my mouse, the other holding my slab of Desk Chocolate, a snack category I have […]

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