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I’m a 37-year-old man not having sex. That’s my choice, and I’m happy with it | Paul Duggan

After a breakup I found hooking up with men transactional and depressing. I won’t have sex until I fall in love again

A few days after Christmas 2016, I stopped having sex.

It wasn’t a grand statement or lifestyle choice. Nor was it an attempt to find life’s deeper meaning. It wasn’t even really a conscious decision. It came about through circumstance during a breakup. Weeks became months, which became years. And here I am, six years later, a 37-year-old man not having sex.

Paul Duggan is a pseudonym

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